Category: Vocation and discernment

3D Juggling 653: Saxophone at dusk

Claire writes: “Summer – when some people turn to camping and minimal living – is also the time when many of us reflect on the what’s and why’s of what we are doing.

Saxophone manOn our recent holiday, we met a man who lived in a one horse horsebox on the harbour.  Every morning and evening, he walked barefoot along the water’s edge playing the saxophone.  As we talked it emerged that he was learning seven instruments, all of which lived in his 7 foot trailer.  He had been a very successful businessman, and this was his second downsizing.  The first was to a Land Rover with a camping pod on the roof.  He had a solar panel to power his keyboard and a solar shower hanging on the outside of the box.

He was a man with presence who had chosen a simple lifestyle and was brave enough to take the risk that involved.  Interestingly I met a friend at a conference last week who is doing exactly the same thing.  At 69, she is downsizing for the second time and living simply with pizzazz.  Makes you think about what’s essential!

That’s it from us until September – there will be someone available all summer, but we will be working lightly”

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3D Juggling 634: Time Making

Claire writes: “A colleague often used to say that people needed ‘a good listening to’.  There seems to be universal agreement that taking enough time to think is a useful and important skill.  When we run courses and do 1-1s, we notice that people think differently – silence may help some – but talking or writing is an important part of the thinking process for others.

A recent article in The Guardian about Sarah Teather’s decision to spend time on retreat in order to decide about her future as an MP raises a different question.  “This politician just needed to shut up and stop talking in order to make a decision”, she says of her month long listening experience.

Making time to think and listen is important.  What is enough time this time?”

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3D Juggling 629: Inside Out

Claire writes: “‘Life has an inside as well as an outside’ was something Jeanette Winterson said in her Radio 4 discussion with the late John Taverner and others last week.

Something to ponder in the workplace?”

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3D Juggling 617: Why why is useful sometimes

Last week we said goodbye to Liz Ford one of our team of coaches.  Thanks, Liz, for all that you brought to the team.  We wish you well in the future.

Claire writes: “I have never been a great fan of the question why, because often people can’t answer a question about why they want a job, or did something.  But as Simon Sinek points out in this TED Video, when people know why they do what they do and understand enough about their purpose, it makes all the difference.

“People don’t buy what you do; people buy why you do it.”, he says and that’s why “Martin Luther King gave the ‘I have a dream’ speech, not the ‘I have a plan’ speech.”

If you look at it like that, I love why!

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3D Juggling 596: Making a Difference

Happy Christmas!  We will be closing the office later this week and will reopen on Friday January 4th. See you on the other side!

Claire writes: “We usually get a flurry of interest in Career Makeovers after the Christmas break.  This year it’s come a little early and we have been having really interesting conversations with people about what next?  Often, we find, when people are looking for a change of career and they are not sure what that might be, they say ‘I want to make a difference’.  As Julia Butterfly Hill an Eco Activist said, “The question is not ‘Can you make a difference?’ You already do make a difference. It’s just a matter of what kind of difference you want to make, during your life on this planet.”  

Changing the question can really help.  So if you know you want to make a difference, what kind of a difference do you want to make?  And what kind of a difference will be enough? Think about it…”

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3D Juggling 578: Disfluency

Claire writes:  “When we were writing the Great Appointments book, Su and I invented the word disfluency.  We notice that really good and competent professionals are disfluent when it comes to talking about themselves and their skills and experience in an interview or assesment centre.

If you can’t describe yourself, the interviewers will not have enough information to be able to decid whether you are the right person for the role.

Here are some tips

  • Prepare your data on yourself as much as you research the data on them.  And then make the connections between the two
  • Make sure that you use a voice where you are confident – people are often fluent and articulate in meetings or presentations or in a public arena and inarticulate talking about themselves.
  • Stand in the role you are being interviewed for when you answer so that you are using their language and making the connections from your story into their context so that they can imagine what it will be like to have you in role.

Disfluency, unexplored will mean that they don’t meet the real you.  Think about it…”

If you want some help preparing for interview, give us a call on 01462 483798.

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3D Juggling 489: Jam

Claire writes: “I was having Greek Salad for lunch during one of our courses when a delegate asked me: So is your work thick jam or thin jam?

We began to talk and it helped me to really understand that our purpose is to meet people for a short period of time and then for them to begin to engage differently with their work or career.  Thin jam.

I’m not keen on reusing questions but it has proved to be useful in many different contexts.  I recently asked a Board of Trustees the jam question about their operational work.  It’s a great career change question when people are considering whether they wish to have a deep impact with a small group of people or a wider impact with a larger group.  And if your organisation is restructuring it’s a great question to reclarify your purpose within the organisation.

So what’s your purpose: Thick jam or thin jam?”

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3D Juggling 551: What vocation looks like

Claire writes: ‘There’s a great line in Shirley Valentine where she says: “Why do we get all this life if we never use it?”

Every week we talk to people who are trying to find a job where they can feel fulfilled.  You can find all our ideas on the website.  Because when people find a place where what they are good at combines with what they love and what an organisation will pay for, you can see it in their eyes.  That’s what Auden describes in Horae Canonicae

You need not see what someone is doing

to know if it is his vocation,

you have only to watch his eyes:

a cook mixing a sauce, a surgeon

making a primary incision,

a clerk completing a bill of lading,

wear the same rapt expression, forgetting

themselves in a function.

How beautiful it is,

that eye-on-the-object look

Have you found yours? Think about it…”
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Alternative to Mission Statement

Jude Trenier, who was at Spring Harvest, just sent me an interesting link from Donald Miller‘s blog about an alternative to a mission statement. We use a similar exercise in some Career Makeovers and this makes it even clearer. Have a look…

3D Juggling 473: Seven Years On

Claire writes: “I had coffee last week with John who I had met for a ten minute conversation in 2003 after his job had been made redundant. He wanted to talk then about career change and finding the right fit… or at that stage, any fit. We’ve exchanged occasional emails and this was an opportunity to talk more.

He was hardly recognisable. The diminished and downtrodden man has transfomed into someone who, two jobs on, is confident and has begun to use skills he didn’t know he had. It was a privilege to catch up on some of the missing parts of the story. Seven years ago he had no idea this kind of job existed and he has found something which is for him, truly vocational, working in a public sector organisation and having influence internationally.

For John, what had been important was being clear about skills that would make money and being willing to take a job which used them and provided for his family. And he held the vision. It was the second job which has harnessed his talents and passions.

Are you clear about what your skills are – and what are strengths and what are passions? Is your job harnessing these?’

Love this? Do us a favour and send it to five people. Who thinks like you? You could send it to someone who is feeling diminished and downtrodden.

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