Nick writes “Often when we are using a coaching style, we challenge how a person is thinking, feeling, behaving or making sense of their world. Sometimes, this can feel exciting and liberating. At other times, it can feel uncomfortable and disorientating.
In order to gauge what level of challenge the person is open to, what level they can cope with healthily without it evoking defensiveness, it’s good to ask the person what they would find most useful from you in that conversation.
‘On a scale of 1-10, how challenging would you like me to be today?’
‘What would that look like?’
These questions invite the person to be honest about where they are at, what they want from you and what would
achieve the best outcome for them.”
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