Claire writes: “After three mentor coaching conversations last week about the challenge of being hard wired into particular roles, whether it be HR Manager, Carer, Pastor, Problem Solver or even Parent, the honeycomb grew out of last week’s containers and emerged onto a whiteboard!
All of us have multiple roles at home and at work. When we are clearly working in one, we know how it works, and colleagues/ family etc know what to expect from the encounter. It’s like being in one cell in the honeycomb. Conversations are more powerful when both people know what’s going on, and what role the other person is in.
Some of us are most comfortable being the generalist where many roles melt into one. That’s a great approach and works well. Except when it doesn’t. Whatever your formal relationship, a coaching approach with someone can help them unpick what’s going on and help them to name the places where they need to look for help or support, affirmation, challenge or advice. It may not be appropriate for it all to come from one person, nor for us to seamlessly slip from one to another without being clear what is happening.
Boundaries are important. Without their wax walls, a honeycomb will collapse under the pressure of the honey.”
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