Jane writes: “Sometimes when a client has a ‘light bulb’ during a coaching conversation they feel ready to stop. Their sense of relief at understanding something that they hadn’t understood before may suggest to them that they know exactly what they now need to do. And they may. But check this out. Sometimes the transition from understanding what they need to do to knowing how to do it needs some support.
Ask what they are going to do. Ask them how they are going to do it, what they are going to say to who, and when. Invite them to rehearse the conversations they are planning – saying things out loud is very different to saying them in your head or writing them down. Ask them who else needs to be involved or will be affected. Who could put a spanner in the works and what can they do to mitigate this? Ask them whatever it takes to help them to move from thinking that they know what to do to knowing what they need to do and how to do it. And then ask them how confident they are that can/will do it and get the result they need, and, if necessary, what they need to do to feel even more confident.
These are also great questions in a conversation with a colleague, or even your children. Think about it…”
When you take this approach you will be reflecting the ICF Core Competencies number 8, 9, 10 and 11 Creating Awareness, Designing Actions and Planning and Goal Setting, Managing Progress and Accountability
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