Claire writes: “I absolutely love observing people having conversations. It’s where I do my very best learning. A couple of weeks ago, I was watching a practice group. In two separate conversations, the coach offered something.
The first said Have you thought about?
The second said Have you heard of?
Have you thought about? is a great example of what Michael Bungay Stainer calls the advice monster. And it sounds like because I think you should/ or haven’t.
Have you heard of? is lighter, positive, and drops in a thought rather than a piece of advice. It makes a difference!
As MBS says, “if you’re on the receiving end of somebody’s Advice Monster, you’re constantly getting the message that you can’t figure this out yourself.”
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