Ruth has just been doing some work in North Wales. She writes: “I’m sitting here watching this majestic river. I’m captivated by the very still smooth water before it hits the rocks and crashes loudly down into the flow. At other points the water laps up the shore. And others still simply flow in the direction that it’s moving. 

I’m wondering if there’s something about conversations here; the ebb and flow; different movements for different moments. 

I wonder how the water knows what to do?  Boundaries help, and so does  doing the next most obvious thing. What’s my next most obvious thing? What’s your next most obvious thing?”

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