3D Ideas 763: Modelling

Congratulations to Su Blanch who has been awarded the ACC credential from the International Coaching Federation
Claire writes: “‘Let us all be the leaders we wish we had’ says Simon Sinek in the last sentence of his book Leaders Eat Last.
The most common feedback I hear from second and third level leaders in organisations is that their leaders don’t (seem to) do any development.  Sometimes that’s true.  And sometimes they are developing themselves in their role and not telling anyone.  If we want our people to learn and grow and develop, perhaps they need to know that it is also our practise to learn, grow and develop.  Even when that exposes some vulnerability for us.”

All of our coaches are working on their own practise.  And there are some new programmes coming up where you can develop yours.

  • Clare is starting a new online mentor coaching group on Fridays at 13.00-14.00 from 5th May
  • Claire is starting a new online practicum where people can practice, practice, practice what they are learning about coaching Fridays 14.00-16.00 from 19th May
  • Clare is sharing what we are learning about using coaching in transition online 11th May 09.30-10.45
© 2017 3D Coaching Ltd
May be distributed freely.  Please retain contact details: www.3dcoaching.com and send a copy/ link to info@3dcoaching.com   Register here to receive our blog posts every Monday by email

3D Ideas 762: A general sense of direction

Claire writes: “I’ve always been someone who prefers a general sense of direction over goals and targets.  Reading David Megginson’s Beyond Goals affirms that I’m not the only one.  So it was with mixed feelings that three weeks into 2017 I committed to a goal and a target: doing the same 13.6 mile sponsored walk every month for a year to raise £12000 for research into Motor Neurone Disease.  The friend who was part of the good idea over a coffee had recently been diagnosed with MND – as had our next door neighbour.  We calculated that if ten people walked every month and each raised £100, we would reach our goal.

 

That was 11 weeks ago.  10 people walked in February, 19 in March and 59 in April – and we have already hit our £12000 target.  We are learning that it’s easier to build a movement when you don’t think that’s what you’re doing!  And that backfilling systems and admin support isn’t the end of the world.  And that our new direction of ‘onwards and upwards’ is enough of a motivation to keep recruiting walkers and sponsors.

 

Most of the 3D team will be walking at some stage and we promise that we will only speak of the walk in this blog twice in the 12 months.  If you’d love to walk with us, or to donate, all the details are on our Just Giving page.”

© 2017 3D Coaching Ltd
May be distributed freely.  Please retain contact details: www.3dcoaching.com and send a copy/ link to info@3dcoaching.com   Register here to receive our blog posts every Monday by email

3D Ideas 761: Not a problem

Claire writes: “‘I haven’t got any problems so I have nothing to bring!’ is something we often hear from delegates on our training courses or in action learning sets.  Edgy thinking space doesn’t need to be a problem solving space.  It’s a rich opportunity to explore learning, development, to look at work situations from a different place, to grow, to be challenged and to challenge ourselves.

 

Given that a coaching style is, at its simplest keeping someone company (and accountable) while they think, it is a great place to flourish and try things out.  That is a gift to the organisations for which we work and the people whom we serve.  Whether they be communities, volunteers, patients, users or customers, they are all people – people who will benefit from us having had conversations that support us and challenge us.”

© 2017 3D Coaching Ltd
May be distributed freely.  Please retain contact details: www.3dcoaching.com and send a copy/ link to info@3dcoaching.com   Register here to receive our blog posts every Monday by email

3D Ideas 760: Another Way?

Claire writes: “Two great reminders this week.  The first is that either/or doesn’t always help us decide.  Considering options as either this or that or something else (that I haven’t thought of yet) can enable more creative thinking.

Secondly I am still overwhelmed by the power of moving when someone is stuck and lacking ideas or energy or both.  Thanks to an insight from John Whittington about place markers, someone on last week’s Transforming Conversations made a significant shift from combining these two simple insights

I don’t actually know what they were talking about, but the thinker was so stuck that the coach moved in her chair to try and unstick thinking. He was still stuck.  So she invited the thinker to draw what he was thinking – and what emerged was an either/or line.  She looked at me with a ‘what on earth do I do now look’.  I picked up three cushions from the sofa where they were sitting and threw them on the ground in a triangle saying ‘if this represents either and this represents or… and (placing the third cushion) this represents something else you haven’t thought of yet…’ Before I had finished, her thinker had dismissed going near either of the first two cushions and placed himself firmly on the third. As I walked away and left them to do the work I heard him say: ‘So THIS is my question – what is this?’.

 

Getting people to move and stand can move thinking forward significantly and quickly.  And this experience underlines the value, I think, of learning by doing even more than from theory.”

 

© 2017 3D Coaching Ltd
May be distributed freely.  Please retain contact details: www.3dcoaching.com and send a copy/ link to info@3dcoaching.com  Register here to receive our blog posts every Monday by email

3D Ideas 759: Exploring – for who?

Claire writes: “Curiosity and exploration are key features of a coaching style.  But if I am curious and exploring your stuff for me, it can turn into an investigation and simply end up with me acquiring information

A much more effective way of being curious and exploring is for us to explore together – so that you learn new things about your situation and possibilities. That way you grow and develop. That’s coaching!


© 2016 3D Coaching Ltd
May be distributed freely.  Please retain contact details: www.3dcoaching.com and send a copy/ link to info@3dcoaching.com  Register here to receive our blog posts every Monday by email

3D Ideas 758: Why Not Why?

Claire writes: “I wonder what you think about the question why?  I love Simon Sinek’s book Start With Why that uses why to get to core purpose fast.  And yet in almost every other context, why can lead to speculation, explanation or justification.  That is all backwards. If it’s useful, what can be even more useful is to ask: ‘You’re doing/thinking that because it will…?’ That’s forward looking.  It’s worth a try!”

© 2016 3D Coaching Ltd
May be distributed freely.  Please retain contact details: www.3dcoaching.com and send a copy/ link to info@3dcoaching.com  Register here to receive our blog posts every Monday by email

3D Ideas 757: A bar at a time

Claire writes: “Continuing on last week’s musical theme, I was developing some NHS leaders yesterday to have better conversations.  There were plenty of questions about good books to read.

I remember someone once saying ‘What have you done with what you know already?’

Skill in conversation comes from applying what we are learning one thing at a time.  For me, that may be taking a few months or longer to integrate one thing into how I do what I already do. Musicians who play beautiful pieces have learned their skill through scales and through practicing one bar at a time.

What do you know already – and forgotten – that could be integrated one bar at a time?”
There is a new Practicum starting on Mondays 11.30-13.30 in our Zoom room if you want to come?
© 2016 3D Coaching Ltd
May be distributed freely.  Please retain contact details: www.3dcoaching.com and send a copy/ link to info@3dcoaching.com  Register here to receive our blog posts every Monday by email

3D Ideas 756: Jazz

Claire writes: “It’s going to take time to process everything I learned about presence from our time learning musical conducting last week, but here is a start:

To be a great Jazz musician, you need to be a technically great musician.  To be a great modern artist, Picasso first needed to be technically a great artist.  To be a great coach, we need to, as Jung said ‘Learn our theories as well as we can and set them aside when we touch the miracle of the living soul’.  Mastery in jazz, art and coaching is about improvisation.  A famous Jazz Band leader used to sack anyone who did the same improvisation twice.

 

Sitting here reflecting this afternoon, I also recognise that all of that takes hours of practice and lots of mistakes from which we can learn.  That’s why we encourage people developing better conversations to practice, practice, practice. There is a new Practicum starting on Mondays 11.30-13.30 in our online Zoom room if you want to come?
© 2016 3D Coaching Ltd
May be distributed freely.  Please retain contact details: www.3dcoaching.com and send a copy/ link to info@3dcoaching.com Register here to receive our blog posts every Monday by email

3D Ideas 755: Who does the work?

Claire writes: “I’ve just come off a phone call with a former conductor who is going to help run our Train the Trainer course tomorrow.  We were talking about over-conducting and under-conducting.  In conversations, we can be over present or under present – which is why he is coming to teach us.

If I want to increase the value of my conversations, it’s useful to move from

  • diagnostic questions where I see, interpret and ask sophisticated questions TO saying what I notice and letting you make the sense
  • listen to what I hear TO listening with my eyes to what I see and hear and sense
  • listening and asking questions with my head TO listening and asking questions with my body
Being fully present and getting someone else to do the work is much more likely to lead to transformation than when I work hard to try and make it happen.”
© 2016 3D Coaching Ltd
May be distributed freely.  Please retain contact details: www.3dcoaching.com and send a copy/ link to info@3dcoaching.com  Register here to receive our blog posts every Monday by email

3D Ideas 754: We’ve Always Done It This Way

Claire writes: “I was with a group of NHS Managers the other day and we were thinking about colleagues who have worked in the same way for many years and ‘have always done it this way’ and see no need to change.  It reminds me of the words of Marshall McLuhan (born over 100 years ago): “Our Age of Anxiety is, in great part, the result of trying to do today’s job with yesterday’s tools and yesterday’s concepts.”


Change is weird sometimes.  On courses we invite delegates to suspend disbelief and try a different way of working. Only when you have experienced it can you really decide whether it’s for you.  In that group of managers, we were wondering what will happen if you invite a colleague to work in a different way for a contained amount of time and then review to see whether it’s useful?”


© 2017 3D Coaching Ltd
May be distributed freely.  Please retain contact details: www.3dcoaching.com and send a copy/ link to info@3dcoaching.com  Register here to receive our blog posts every Monday by email