Claire writes: “I’m at that age where I go upstairs and forget what I went for. However, in conversations, the forgettery serves me well. I love that the Merriam-Webster dictionary says ‘a well-managed forgettery is often as important as a good memory’ 

When we remember everything that someone has told us, and we listen to many people in a day or a week, that’s a lot of stuff to hold.  And it’s not ours to hold.  The role of a coach is to support someone else as they process their stuff.  Not to hold it for them.  Of course I will find a way of remembering the name of their partner or significant work colleague, but what a gift that I don’t need to remember everything! How’s your forgettery?”

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