Claire writes: “Wherever did we get the idea that our roles require us to be superheroes? Superhero-ing looks like line managers feeling they need to fix the problems they perceive colleagues bring to them. It looks like coaches feeling like they need to attain changed lives by the end of a series of conversations. Superhero-itis shows up everywhere.
The challenge with the superhero style is that, although it can be seductive, it can skew our power relationship by disempowering our colleagues. Think about superheroes. In fiction they are larger than life characters. In comparison, an ordinary human seems to have a much lower status than a hero. When we want to develop people, we need to enable them to grow. And for that to happen, they need to believe they can do this. That’s why coaching is a great leadership style. Paul Kasimu, a leader in East African Telecoms giant Safaricom says: “We need a portfolio without power. To feel comfortable leading when it’s not with power and authority – taking a back seat and allowing teams to find solutions for themselves”
Lighten up! Stop trying to be a superhero! It’s not all down to you to fix in the time available for a conversation. Coach out the unfinished stuff at the end of a conversation: “Do you know where/when you’re going to keep thinking about that?” is a much more empowering end than “We can’t possibly give credit to this enormous problem in the short time we have now.. Come back next week”.
Because when we are working in partnership enough, and when we end a conversation well rather than closing it down, the best learning happens after our conversation is over!”
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I just want to reiterate how useful I found the CPD yesterday and how I will be incorporating a lot of what I learnt into my own coaching sessions. I found your own style inspirational and loved the simplicity of it all, it was fun to learn amongst like-minded people.LR
Moving On: Do It! It is the most affirming ‘course’ I have taken part in …life changingAH
‘I came for coaching because I applied for a job I could have done quite well, only I interviewed extremely badly. I met with Claire, and spent two hours with her. I gained greatly from her encouraging attitude and her positive approach. She helped me to see that I greatly undervalued and understated who I was and what I did. I had a potentially excellent CV, but was expressing it in a very unexciting manner. I tended to treat as self-evident things I had done and the approach that I had taken although these could have been major selling points in getting the sort of post that I was capable of.
I now have a far better understanding of what is required, and am confident that if I do myself justice at interview I will get a job that will better enable me to use my strengths to their best advantage. I have also been on an interviewing panel recently and my understanding of the process and I believe that my appraisal of candidates has been enhanced through my time with Claire. I would happily recommend you to others, especially those who are seeking to move post after a substantial length of time in the same job.’RC
I have been coaching for many years and take my CPD very seriously. I belong to a supervision group and I work under supervision. I found the practicum sessions gave me the opportunity to practice, observe, reflect and plan how I would apply the learning from feedback to myself and observing others. I would recommend the practicum so highly I want to continue.Mary Cross
“I really liked extremely competent delivery and teaching, non-coercive, real, straightforwardness with no waffle, relevant, very simple and usable, transformational – honestly!” Karl FreemanKF
“It was some of the highest quality training I’ve ever had the good fortune to receive.” JTJT
Thanks for the way you run 3D, including the weekly e-mail blog – you genuinely are the best provider of training I have come across (in ordained ministry and 14 years as a teacher/school leader)Matt Roberts
Our practicum this morning was far more than I ever expected it to be. I am excited about the simplicity of the process that Claire Pedrick has advanced for us to be able to use. Thank you for facilitating this.Far more than I expected…
“It’s low on waffle and fluff, but adds meat to the bones where needed. I’d highly recommend it to anyone who is working in a coaching capacity.” Latest 5* review on Amazon for Simplifying CoachingLow on waffle
“…Everything has been useful. The coaching, the mentoring, the master classes… but maybe it’s more how you do things than what you do which is the learning for me. As you told me during your last session: mastery comes with being, not doing, and it is true inspiration to work with you, listen to you guide a masterclass or a course, or be mentored by you”NP
“Really grateful for such a well crafted course which enabled me to be in a much more confident place in just four days! Stunning! I would definitely recommend 3D to others. Not least because all they teach adheres to ICF core competencies and the hours in training count towards accreditation, but mostly because the course delivers what it claims, in a professional and friendly way and at a great venue!”CS came to Transforming Conversations
Transforming Conversations lived up to its title. it was both transformative for us as individuals and ministers and showed us how we could transform the conversations we have both in work settings and at home. This is one of the most useful, practical pieces of training I have been offered in 24 years of ministry, I wish I had known about this from the beginning. Claire Pedrick in particular is inspirational in her openness to continue to learn and explore fresh approaches despite the wealth of experience and wisdom she brings to her practice.Cheryl Collins
A stonking thank you to Peronel for the whole thing!Coaching Practicum – SH
The practicum was challenging and energising. Watching change is fantastic.Practicum Participant
Just to say how amazingly energising and helpful I found our meeting today – thank you so much! You have a real and fabulous gift for helping people get to a clarity that rings true at an inner heart/gut level.AB
A note of thanks for the thought provoking session you took us through last week …It’s great to come away with a practical and useful set of ideas that translate easily into practice.NHS
Thank you. You have been instrumental in supporting so many of us to give of our best.RW
Thank you for all the ways in which you have helped us… The coaching training has been a huge blessing and lever for change within the organisation. You have added a great deal of value and we very much appreciate it.HB