Tag: slowlyness

3D Ideas 885: Take a Picture

Claire writes: “The best book I have read so far in 2020 is Somebody I Used to Know by Wendy Mitchell. Wendy was diagnosed with dementia young and this is her story.  It wasn’t an easy read but there was much to learn. At the end of the book, I wanted to know what happened next, so I looked her up. Wendy is alive and well and tweeting and blogging.

Last week, Wendy posted a photo of her bedroom wall.  She had gone in and seen something huge which worried and confused her.  She took a photo and left the room. Outside the room, she looked at it from a different place, and recognised the shadow of the pot plants on her window. I love that the concept of looking from a different place has such wide value.

In the last 48 hours, we have been thinking about what questions we need to be asking over the next few days and weeks about behaving responsibly and working in service of the greater good? As a result of this we have decided for the time being to stop all on site group and team events so that we can respect the UK government guidelines about social distancing. We will be focusing on offering online training, coaching and mentor coaching – so we are available to talk whenever that’s useful.

So this morning has been busy with logistics and phone calls.  Now that’s all done, and I can take a step back, I am reminded of Wendy and the photograph.  What I see from a distance is the opportunity to go more slowly, to focus on some useful and important developments, and to experience a different way of being. That’s exciting.”

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3D Juggling 691: Punctuation

Claire writes: “Punctuation pedants will know that a semicolon is a break in a sentence that is stronger than a comma but not as final as a full stop. Both clauses can stand alone yet have a connection.

Breaks are as important in life as in sentences and it’s interesting to observe how our 24/7 culture means that there is often an expectation that can be no complete break in work for holidays. I also notice that a long and unpunctuated sentence is unreadable.

If you have a meetings culture in your organisation, you may find a similar dilemma. Too many meetings and no breaks means there is no time to action what was decided in the meeting let alone catch up on emails and calls.

Punctuation matters. So do breaks. that’s why we are switching to a different pace of work over the summer. You can still call the office and email info@3dcoaching.com – and we may take a little longer to respond.”

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3D Juggling 653: Saxophone at dusk

Claire writes: “Summer – when some people turn to camping and minimal living – is also the time when many of us reflect on the what’s and why’s of what we are doing.

Saxophone manOn our recent holiday, we met a man who lived in a one horse horsebox on the harbour.  Every morning and evening, he walked barefoot along the water’s edge playing the saxophone.  As we talked it emerged that he was learning seven instruments, all of which lived in his 7 foot trailer.  He had been a very successful businessman, and this was his second downsizing.  The first was to a Land Rover with a camping pod on the roof.  He had a solar panel to power his keyboard and a solar shower hanging on the outside of the box.

He was a man with presence who had chosen a simple lifestyle and was brave enough to take the risk that involved.  Interestingly I met a friend at a conference last week who is doing exactly the same thing.  At 69, she is downsizing for the second time and living simply with pizzazz.  Makes you think about what’s essential!

That’s it from us until September – there will be someone available all summer, but we will be working lightly”

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3D Juggling 634: Time Making

Claire writes: “A colleague often used to say that people needed ‘a good listening to’.  There seems to be universal agreement that taking enough time to think is a useful and important skill.  When we run courses and do 1-1s, we notice that people think differently – silence may help some – but talking or writing is an important part of the thinking process for others.

A recent article in The Guardian about Sarah Teather’s decision to spend time on retreat in order to decide about her future as an MP raises a different question.  “This politician just needed to shut up and stop talking in order to make a decision”, she says of her month long listening experience.

Making time to think and listen is important.  What is enough time this time?”

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3D Juggling 620: Defragging

There are still a few spaces on the next 4 day coaching skills programme starting in London on 17th September – call the office on 01462 483798 to find out more.

Claire writes: “Defragging the computer always seems to speed it up – and it’s always satisfying to see the amount of white space that reaapears on the graphic.  I have to say that after several weeks away from work, I feel defragged!

Poet David Whyte says that withdrawal “is underestimated in this time of action and engagement. So much of what we are involved with, in even the highest cause, becomes involvement at the busy periphery, where the central conversation has been lost to the outer elaborations of what was to begin with, a very simple invitation. Withdrawal is often not what it looks like – a disappearance – no, to withdraw from entanglement can be to begin the process of renewing the primary, essential invitation again.”  Certainly food for thought as many of us reengage at work into a post-summer pace, whether we have had time off or not.”

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3D Juggling 619: Press Pause

Claire writes: “This is the first summer when I have not had school age children, and now have different choices and priorities for how I spend my time.  Choice is such a gift, I think.  We often have more choices than we think and  often simply choose not to choose. I know that running your own business afford more choices in some ways – as well as more risk!

So I take CCL’s cyclical approach to work and a stopping season demonstrates some of my own values around work life balance and allows time to regroup before a very busy autumn.  All of our team make choices depending on our own circumstances so there will be someone to talk with you on the phone and to respond to emails.

Juggling will resume in September!”

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3D Juggling 618: Juggling Again

Claire writes: “In this weather in England, pace is quite important.  How do you get through the day with enough energy in spite of the heat?  If you’re outside at all, it seems to require a different pace from other times of the year.

Most of us are juggling activities, work and home life, or family and pace is equally important there.  The Centre for Creative Leadership has done some interesting work into this.

They talk about how people do or don’t separate roles and tasks, and where they put boundaries, with some interesting reflections on how that impacts others.  Having just seen my youngest daughter leave school this term, it makes me reflect on how seasons influence our choices – and when we need to remember that we can choose to blend things differently – whether for a few weeks or a longer season. So are you an

  • Integrator who mixes work and personal tasks through the day?
  • Separator who has clear boundaries of space and time between home and work
  • Work Firster who allows work to interrupt home life but not the other way around
  • Family Firster who protects family time but allow work time to be interrupted
  • Cycler who switches between cycles of integration and separation

Which is a reminder for us to say that 3D will move into a lighter cycle now until the beginning of September. There are still spaces for people looking for 1-1 coaching and someone will be responding to phone calls and emails but we will be doing shorter hours.”

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3D Juggling 616: Planned Neglect

Claire writes: “I’m running a Masterclass on designing actions later today and it crossed my mind that we often think actions are things to do. Choosing how to be can be an action as well.  And so can doing nothing – or even stopping doing things.  Which reminded me of a great quote from the Rule of Life of the Companions of Brother Lawrence:

“For us, planned neglect will mean deliberately choosing which things we will leave undone or postpone, so that instead of being oppressed by a clutter of unfinished jobs, we think out our priorities under God and then accept without guilt or resentment the fact that much we had thought we ought to do we must leave.”

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3D Juggling 603: Busy busy

There are still spaces on the Masterclass on 25th Feb on helping people look at their situation from a different perspective; and on the next open Coaching for Excellence starting on 4th March.

Claire writes: “It’s Lent.  And there’s talk of who has given up what, and who isn’t interested.

The people at ‘I’m not busy’ are encouraging us to give up busyness for Lent.  It’s a bit like the art of slowlyness.

Even if that’s for 15 minutes out of your working day, it’s a great idea.”

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Slowlyness – you respond…

In response to our recent comments about slowlyness:

I read this wonderfully spot on, v relevant article by ‘the Bottom man‘ and thought a) he’s reading my mind and b) this ties in so well with your 3D piece about creating space to think.  After reading it, I disciplined myself not to reach for my phone to do some texting whilst waiting in an opticians the other day. I didn’t do any mind blowing thinking,but i did what is v human, and that is to just ‘be’.

And you wonder why i don’t want an i-phone….