Category: leadership

3D Ideas 808: Pot Bound?

Claire writes: “I can still remember starting out on this journey of coaching and asking someone I respected for one tip. ‘Make sure that you spend time with people who are better than you’, she said.

That insight has been really useful personally and professionally.  I notice that leaders don’t always disclose to those they lead that they too are still learning.  When they do it has a huge impact on their organisation.

I’m sure we are all a bit pot-bound and it’s life giving to know there is always more to learn. Years ago, a colleague Judith reminded me ‘It is better to travel hopefully than to arrive‘. Onwards!”

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3D Ideas 763: Modelling

Congratulations to Su Blanch who has been awarded the ACC credential from the International Coaching Federation
Claire writes: “‘Let us all be the leaders we wish we had’ says Simon Sinek in the last sentence of his book Leaders Eat Last.
The most common feedback I hear from second and third level leaders in organisations is that their leaders don’t (seem to) do any development.  Sometimes that’s true.  And sometimes they are developing themselves in their role and not telling anyone.  If we want our people to learn and grow and develop, perhaps they need to know that it is also our practise to learn, grow and develop.  Even when that exposes some vulnerability for us.”

All of our coaches are working on their own practise.  And there are some new programmes coming up where you can develop yours.

  • Clare is starting a new online mentor coaching group on Fridays at 13.00-14.00 from 5th May
  • Claire is starting a new online practicum where people can practice, practice, practice what they are learning about coaching Fridays 14.00-16.00 from 19th May
  • Clare is sharing what we are learning about using coaching in transition online 11th May 09.30-10.45
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3D Ideas 754: We’ve Always Done It This Way

Claire writes: “I was with a group of NHS Managers the other day and we were thinking about colleagues who have worked in the same way for many years and ‘have always done it this way’ and see no need to change.  It reminds me of the words of Marshall McLuhan (born over 100 years ago): “Our Age of Anxiety is, in great part, the result of trying to do today’s job with yesterday’s tools and yesterday’s concepts.”


Change is weird sometimes.  On courses we invite delegates to suspend disbelief and try a different way of working. Only when you have experienced it can you really decide whether it’s for you.  In that group of managers, we were wondering what will happen if you invite a colleague to work in a different way for a contained amount of time and then review to see whether it’s useful?”


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3D Juggling 717: Stop!

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Claire writes: “A couple of weeks ago, we drove up to some roadworks and were met by a stop sign. The man holding it walked up to us and said ‘It’ll be 15-20 minutes and then you can go through’. We turned off the engine, got out of the van, walked around, took some photos of the scenery, he had his lunch… and eventually he turned his sign from STOP to GO SLOW and we drove onto the newly resurfaced road (in up country New Zealand).

Unexpected, and grateful we weren’t in a hurry to get anywhere, it was a great lesson in the value of stopping. Now we’re back to work – engaging with many leaders and managers who have no stopping room – and often no space between meetings to prepare, follow up or manage email – let alone reflect. Diaries that are full of meetings are over-full – which is why so many people end up taking work home or doing admin at night or weekends.

These workers recognised that they needed to do a good job back stage for the road to be useful. And they needed time. How can we support ourselves and people who work in our organisations to take time to do the back stage work that is needed for them to deliver on the front stage?

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3D Juggling 681: What’s Resourcing You Part 1

Claire writes: “Preparing for a day with a group on fully inhabiting leadership was an opportunity to think about what stops us stepping up?  There is plenty to read and courses aplenty.  Yet when people still feel they are not quite there, apart from the positive benefits of a certain element of doubt, what might be happening?

Some of the leaders we work with are surrounded by teams – some are physically more isolated.  Nicky and I have both received systemic training recently from John Whittington who asks: What’s behind you? What’s resourcing you?   He talks about each of us coming with a plume of feathers behind us – like a peacock – people who rate us, who commissioned us, who trained us, who love us, our family of origin and so much more.  Some are resources.  Some are entanglements – the person we felt bullied by who we haven’t seen for years but whose shadow inhabits our back stage.  Unconscious entanglements can hold us back.  Acknowledged, and processed those too can become resources and make us who we are.

So what is behind you? What’s resourcing you? If you feel lonely or cut off, what needs to happen for you to notice it and bring it closer?  Who is in your cloud of witnesses? They don’t need to turn up in your building.  Acknowledging they are there can make a significant difference.

Many of the things that may be raised by this blog can be dealt with through reflection or coaching.  If it’s more complex and you can’t access it, that may be a sign that you would benefit from a different kind of support.  Happy to talk if it’s useful to work out what that might be.

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3D Juggling 680: Confession Time

There are still a couple of spaces on 9th June’s Action Learning Facilitator Training.  If your organisation is geographically spread, we will also be doing a taster about Virtual Action Learning at 10am on 25th June for an hour – via webinar.

The next open Transforming Conversations course starts in September  If you book in May, we are offering organisations 4 places for the price of 3.

Claire writes: “After all the positive feedback from last week’s blog, I think we must have hit a chord.  So it’s time to come out and say it: ‘My name is Claire and sometimes I feel like an imposter’.

That inner critic and I have many conversations with each other – and we have even gone to supervision together!  I am learning that there is value in a bit of imposter syndrome.  Learning to manage it well takes time… but imagine how unbearable we would all be if we thought we were brilliant at everything! Do you feel like an imposter?”

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3D Juggling 679: Are you an imposter?

Claire writes: “A colleague in Leadership Development was telling me about some research on why senior leaders can sometimes be reluctant to engage in training and development. Most of us suffer from imposter syndrome – that fear that someone will find out that we don’t know everything about what we are doing. It appears that there is a feeling that if we engage in further training and development, it will just confirm that we are not entirely competent in what we do, so we don’t go. Interesting when vulnerability is an important leadership quality.

A couple of days later someone else talked about whether it is possible to be formed as a leader from the first chair? In the second chair, we can safely receive feedback and development and not knowing is a great quality. In some sectors that formation of leaders happens over many years. It is an interesting question for people in the church, for example, where most people start their post of first responsibility in a place where there is little or no first hand feedback from peers.

Reflection, making mistakes, learning from them and not knowing all the answers makes great leaders. So being an imposter may not be such a bad thing. After all, who wants to work with or for someone who believes they know absolutely everything?!

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3D Juggling 654: What is a wheel?

Most of the 3D team have had a change of pace over the summer – and it’s good to be back into the new season.  Congratulations to Peronel who has just been awarded the Associate Certified Coach credential.

Claire writes: “We went for the slow static break this summer – on a campsite in Suffolk.  After the American gap-year-in-a fortnight with one of my daughters earlier in the year, it was great to park the wheels and to be in the same place and to allow the mind and the body to slow down in sync.  Time and space often get out of alignment.  In May we went to Philadelphia twice within three days – but so much had changed in my thinking and perceptions during the time we were upstate, that it felt like a very different place.  That’s why the ‘Where are we now? What do we need to do next?’ questions from the coaching toolkit are so useful at work.

[Wheels allow us to move where where we need to go physically. Which is interesting to notice when so many organisations have a reporting structure that looks like a wheel – and where board or trustee meetings are spokes reporting into a hub.  One of my summer thinkings has been t notice how that can make an organisation quite static.  Because wheels are meant to be a moving part that allows the vehicle to travel where the organisation/ stakeholders need it to go.]

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3D Juggling 628: Bicycles and Gutters

Claire writes: “I had a great chat with a cyclist this week who was telling me that the safest place to cycle is to be a third of the way from the kerb.  That way, he said, people treat you like a vehicle and know how to overtake safely and respectfully (mostly!).  They instinctively know how to put in good boundaries with you.  When you cycle close to the edge, you’re more likely to fall into the gutter, and they are less likely to honour safe space around the bike and to drive too close.

We were wondering whether that’s replicated in other kinds of boundaries.  When you set your own well enough, other people know how to navigate and respect them (on the whole).  It’s food for thought.”

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Leadership and Management – what’s the difference?

People often talk with us about the difference between a manager and a leader.  Useful insights in a recent Harvard Business Review blog from Vineet Nayar