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3D Ideas 888: Juggling

Claire writes: “On one of my long lunchtime walks last week, Alan and I were on the phone talking about leadership.  We were thinking about how the lockdown is raising questions for leaders:

  • what do we drop?
  • what do we hold lightly?
  • and how do we open our hands to have the capacity to receive

Great Leaders don’t cling to stuff. They lay some things down gently. They throw some away, and they hold some things more lightly so they can pick up other things

The adeptness of the juggler is management. And an essential hidden skill of leadership.”

We are aware that you might be overwhelmed with work or family responsibilities and you may have too much space. If learning is part of your lockdown life, we have a variety of online opportunities for CPD that start after Easter and runs through the early part of the summer:

DIP – we continue to record our free Coaching Inn podcasts with interesting people. The ethics ones can be used for coaches looking for the 3 hours ethics training required by ICF. Or join Claire for a complimentary hour to Refresh what you are learning about coaching.

DIVE – the world is experiencing trauma at one level or another – join Claire and Liz Behnke for a half day training (29th April) for coaches wanting to be mental health aware.

Action Learning is a great way to develop people and we have been running training to facilitate this online for a number of years. Next online training starts 21st May.

DEEP DIVE – if you are looking for some high quality coach training or CPD, join Claire on Lockdown Tuesdays for 24 hours of live Masterclasses on each of the new ICF Core Competencies – with a Practicum each week. (50% discount on normal online cost – and you can pay in installments).

Mentor Coaching Group if you are renewing your  ACC starts 8 June, and Peronel is ready to start a new mentor coaching group for anyone going for ACC or PCC on Mondays 16.30-17.30 (UK)

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3D Ideas 887: Love, Leadership and Trauma

Claire writes: “‘Too much, too fast, too soon’ is Peter Levine’s definition of trauma. The covid 19 lockdown across the world has been huge and come with almost no warning. Even for those with a safe home, the change in lifestyle has been traumatic – before we begin to look at the impact of loss and grief on workplaces, families and communities. The ways in which we have led need to adapt and change. Everyone is experiencing some level of trauma. 

A few weeks ago, I met Sarah Broscombe for the first time. We were chatting in Zoom about stuff and got onto the topic of power. There is a chapter in my book about power, presence and partnership.  The conversation was so interesting that we agreed to reconvene last Friday to record a podcast. Little did we know that the world was about to change. You can listen here – it’s about 20 minutes long.  

At the end of our conversation, Sarah talks about Martin Luther King as a great example of leading in a situation that feels almost impossible. He said that “Power properly understood is nothing but the ability to achieve purpose. It is the strength required to bring about social, political and economic change. … What is needed is a realisation that power without love is reckless and abusive, and love without power is sentimental and anaemic. Power at its best is love implementing the demands of justice, and justice at its best is power correcting everything that stands against love.”

 

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3D Ideas 864: What can only I do?

Without doubt, the best way to escalate our learning as coaches is to watch coaching as much as it is to practice it. It is in the noticing chair where we notice all the things we miss when we are focusing on asking quality questions! If you’re trained as a coach with 3D or elsewhere, Join Claire P for a one-off two hour practicum 7th October.

Claire writes: “A warm welcome to Ness Callis who has joined us as admin assistant.  Ness has joined us to make sure that we have the capacity to continue to deliver high quality work.  It means that we are working out, in the office, who does what.

I was inspired by an article from the Alban Institute which asked the question of leaders ‘What can only I do?’ It’s a very useful question.  It informs our decisions from admin tasks through to deployment and delivery.  Sometimes the answer to the question is the right answer. Sometimes it means that we have to share knowledge more.  It is not OK that I am the only one who can descale the coffee machine!

We don’t always get it right. And it’s always useful to hold the question.”

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3D Ideas 808: Pot Bound?

Claire writes: “I can still remember starting out on this journey of coaching and asking someone I respected for one tip. ‘Make sure that you spend time with people who are better than you’, she said.

That insight has been really useful personally and professionally.  I notice that leaders don’t always disclose to those they lead that they too are still learning.  When they do it has a huge impact on their organisation.

I’m sure we are all a bit pot-bound and it’s life giving to know there is always more to learn. Years ago, a colleague Judith reminded me ‘It is better to travel hopefully than to arrive‘. Onwards!”

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3D Ideas 763: Modelling

Congratulations to Su Blanch who has been awarded the ACC credential from the International Coaching Federation
Claire writes: “‘Let us all be the leaders we wish we had’ says Simon Sinek in the last sentence of his book Leaders Eat Last.
The most common feedback I hear from second and third level leaders in organisations is that their leaders don’t (seem to) do any development.  Sometimes that’s true.  And sometimes they are developing themselves in their role and not telling anyone.  If we want our people to learn and grow and develop, perhaps they need to know that it is also our practise to learn, grow and develop.  Even when that exposes some vulnerability for us.”

All of our coaches are working on their own practise.  And there are some new programmes coming up where you can develop yours.

  • Clare is starting a new online mentor coaching group on Fridays at 13.00-14.00 from 5th May
  • Claire is starting a new online practicum where people can practice, practice, practice what they are learning about coaching Fridays 14.00-16.00 from 19th May
  • Clare is sharing what we are learning about using coaching in transition online 11th May 09.30-10.45
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3D Ideas 754: We’ve Always Done It This Way

Claire writes: “I was with a group of NHS Managers the other day and we were thinking about colleagues who have worked in the same way for many years and ‘have always done it this way’ and see no need to change.  It reminds me of the words of Marshall McLuhan (born over 100 years ago): “Our Age of Anxiety is, in great part, the result of trying to do today’s job with yesterday’s tools and yesterday’s concepts.”


Change is weird sometimes.  On courses we invite delegates to suspend disbelief and try a different way of working. Only when you have experienced it can you really decide whether it’s for you.  In that group of managers, we were wondering what will happen if you invite a colleague to work in a different way for a contained amount of time and then review to see whether it’s useful?”


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3D Juggling 717: Stop!

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Claire writes: “A couple of weeks ago, we drove up to some roadworks and were met by a stop sign. The man holding it walked up to us and said ‘It’ll be 15-20 minutes and then you can go through’. We turned off the engine, got out of the van, walked around, took some photos of the scenery, he had his lunch… and eventually he turned his sign from STOP to GO SLOW and we drove onto the newly resurfaced road (in up country New Zealand).

Unexpected, and grateful we weren’t in a hurry to get anywhere, it was a great lesson in the value of stopping. Now we’re back to work – engaging with many leaders and managers who have no stopping room – and often no space between meetings to prepare, follow up or manage email – let alone reflect. Diaries that are full of meetings are over-full – which is why so many people end up taking work home or doing admin at night or weekends.

These workers recognised that they needed to do a good job back stage for the road to be useful. And they needed time. How can we support ourselves and people who work in our organisations to take time to do the back stage work that is needed for them to deliver on the front stage?

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3D Juggling 681: What’s Resourcing You Part 1

Claire writes: “Preparing for a day with a group on fully inhabiting leadership was an opportunity to think about what stops us stepping up?  There is plenty to read and courses aplenty.  Yet when people still feel they are not quite there, apart from the positive benefits of a certain element of doubt, what might be happening?

Some of the leaders we work with are surrounded by teams – some are physically more isolated.  Nicky and I have both received systemic training recently from John Whittington who asks: What’s behind you? What’s resourcing you?   He talks about each of us coming with a plume of feathers behind us – like a peacock – people who rate us, who commissioned us, who trained us, who love us, our family of origin and so much more.  Some are resources.  Some are entanglements – the person we felt bullied by who we haven’t seen for years but whose shadow inhabits our back stage.  Unconscious entanglements can hold us back.  Acknowledged, and processed those too can become resources and make us who we are.

So what is behind you? What’s resourcing you? If you feel lonely or cut off, what needs to happen for you to notice it and bring it closer?  Who is in your cloud of witnesses? They don’t need to turn up in your building.  Acknowledging they are there can make a significant difference.

Many of the things that may be raised by this blog can be dealt with through reflection or coaching.  If it’s more complex and you can’t access it, that may be a sign that you would benefit from a different kind of support.  Happy to talk if it’s useful to work out what that might be.

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3D Juggling 680: Confession Time

There are still a couple of spaces on 9th June’s Action Learning Facilitator Training.  If your organisation is geographically spread, we will also be doing a taster about Virtual Action Learning at 10am on 25th June for an hour – via webinar.

The next open Transforming Conversations course starts in September  If you book in May, we are offering organisations 4 places for the price of 3.

Claire writes: “After all the positive feedback from last week’s blog, I think we must have hit a chord.  So it’s time to come out and say it: ‘My name is Claire and sometimes I feel like an imposter’.

That inner critic and I have many conversations with each other – and we have even gone to supervision together!  I am learning that there is value in a bit of imposter syndrome.  Learning to manage it well takes time… but imagine how unbearable we would all be if we thought we were brilliant at everything! Do you feel like an imposter?”

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3D Juggling 679: Are you an imposter?

Claire writes: “A colleague in Leadership Development was telling me about some research on why senior leaders can sometimes be reluctant to engage in training and development. Most of us suffer from imposter syndrome – that fear that someone will find out that we don’t know everything about what we are doing. It appears that there is a feeling that if we engage in further training and development, it will just confirm that we are not entirely competent in what we do, so we don’t go. Interesting when vulnerability is an important leadership quality.

A couple of days later someone else talked about whether it is possible to be formed as a leader from the first chair? In the second chair, we can safely receive feedback and development and not knowing is a great quality. In some sectors that formation of leaders happens over many years. It is an interesting question for people in the church, for example, where most people start their post of first responsibility in a place where there is little or no first hand feedback from peers.

Reflection, making mistakes, learning from them and not knowing all the answers makes great leaders. So being an imposter may not be such a bad thing. After all, who wants to work with or for someone who believes they know absolutely everything?!

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