Tag: confidence

3D Juggling 612: Not Knowing

Claire writes: ” “The more serious mistakes are not being made as a result of wrong answers. The truly dangerous thing is asking the wrong question.” said Peter Drucker. That’s food for thought in a world where the greatest challenge of our time is about holding uncertainty.  What is the question when you have to make 4% cuts? Or redundancies? Or serve the needs of paymaster and service user? Shareholders and staff? or donors and partners?

Asking questions takes time, and can bring a vulnerability because realise that we are showing we are not in control.  Yet true wisdom can hold the not knowing – and often the way forward emerges from the waiting. Can’t resist a quote from TS Eliot’s East Coker –

 

“I said to my soul, be still, and wait without hope
For hope would be hope for the wrong thing; wait without love
For love would be love of the wrong thing; there is yet faith
But the faith and the love and the hope are all in the waiting.
Wait without thought, for you are not ready for thought”

Holding uncertainty is also about holding your nerve in that in between waiting time, I think.”

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3D Juggling 568: How much worry is too much?

Jane writes: ‘Some worry is good for us as being aware of risks makes us cautious and helps to keep us safe. But when worrying prevents us from taking any action at all we can feel powerless and defenceless – not a good place to be.

Maybe you worry about relationships at work, whether you’re performing well enough, how to balance several roles, or what the boss thinks of you. Working out what to do in these circumstances could make the difference between keeping safe or losing your job. Perhaps you need time to think. Who could help you to find that time and use it wisely? Think about it…’

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Related research:
High intelligence and worry both correlate with brain activity measured by the depletion of the nutrient choline in the subcortical white matter of the brain. According to the researchers, this suggests that intelligence may have co-evolved with worry in humans.

3D Juggling 540: Respect

Claire writes: “One of the coaches I supervise was talking to me and remembered something they had been told in training. ‘If you don’t respect one of your clients, it’s time to help them find another coach.’

Respect (or disrespect) is a buzz word at the moment and a powerful concept in the workplace and in the community.  Respect for others means that I learn from them as much as I learn from anybody else in any other place.  Learning comes when we are open to it.  People have much to teach us whatever their age.  Think about it…”

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3D Juggling 480: Stormy Weather Forecast

Last Monday, the UK government announced a £6 billion cut in public spending. As a result, we are a offering free place at our Career Makeover event on 5 June to anyone whose job is at risk as a result of that announcement.

Claire writes: ‘The fallout from the recession is still affecting the private sector. Cuts in public funding will mean that the public sector is also in for a stormy future. How do you lead in a time of uncertainty?

We were thinking about this a few days ago and playing with the idea of swimming safely in a stormy sea:

  • Which waves do you choose to ride, which do you avoid?
  • Where is the lifeguard?
  • What was your lifejacket look like?
  • How do you learn to swim with the tide and keep safe?
  • Where are the most helpful channels and currents?
  • Who else is in the water with you? Panicking swimmers can pull others down. Sharks circle groups of people, rather than attacking them.
  • If you’re going to be in the water for a long time, do you need a wetsuit? Or goose fat?
  • What you need to do now to make sure there will be a lifeguard on the beach?

You certainly can’t hope that the storm isn’t happening.

In the sea, you identify and draw on whatever resources are available to remain safe, and try to travel to land effectively. What resources can you identify and draw on now to remain effective in your organisation? Other people need to absorb some of the work which will need to continue post-cuts. What needs to happen to manage that in a way which honours the work, the staff, and the customer?

How rough is your sea?’

Love this? If this is the reality in your organisation and you’d like to talk about how to support staff through the transition, call us and we can meet for a coffee. It’s on us!

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3D Juggling 473: Seven Years On

Claire writes: “I had coffee last week with John who I had met for a ten minute conversation in 2003 after his job had been made redundant. He wanted to talk then about career change and finding the right fit… or at that stage, any fit. We’ve exchanged occasional emails and this was an opportunity to talk more.

He was hardly recognisable. The diminished and downtrodden man has transfomed into someone who, two jobs on, is confident and has begun to use skills he didn’t know he had. It was a privilege to catch up on some of the missing parts of the story. Seven years ago he had no idea this kind of job existed and he has found something which is for him, truly vocational, working in a public sector organisation and having influence internationally.

For John, what had been important was being clear about skills that would make money and being willing to take a job which used them and provided for his family. And he held the vision. It was the second job which has harnessed his talents and passions.

Are you clear about what your skills are – and what are strengths and what are passions? Is your job harnessing these?’

Love this? Do us a favour and send it to five people. Who thinks like you? You could send it to someone who is feeling diminished and downtrodden.

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3D Juggling 466: How many ducks are there in your row?

Claire writes: “When you buy a house, although you make many different choices, on the morning of the move, you can’t get through the new front door unless all the money is in the right place, the right paperwork has been signed and the right people have the keys. By then there have been surveys and mortgage applications, estimates and guesstimates. In house moving all your ducks need to be lined up in a row or the sale falls through.

If only life was like that in the world of career development. Our experience is that people are reluctant to make a move because all their ducks aren’t lined up. And that causes inertia. Suddenly: ‘I’d like to retrain’ becomes ‘I’d like to retrain but then will I get a job and will I have to move and…?’ Whereas with a house move, it’s all or nothing, with a career move you will always have to take a risk.

Think about variables eg location, time, financial security, employability, plan B:

  • What things REALLY need to be fixed?
  • What are flexible/ mobile/transferable?
  • You will never get all your ducks lined up in a row! How many is enough? Probably more than one… and less than all!

So if you’re in inertia, how many ducks are there in your row?

PS Where does this come from? Some people say the ducks in a row comes from funfair games.

Love this? Do us a favour and send it to five people. Who thinks like you? You could send it to someone who needs to take a risk

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3D Juggling 446: The Moors in the morning

Claire writes: ‘Travelling over the moors into Sheffield early in the morning last week was beautiful. Crisp and bright with an azure blue sky, it was a very different experience from my last journey on that road which I have written about before. That night had been dark and wet and at the end of a long day, even with Satnav, the journey was stressful. I can now tell you that there are two junctions on the road that can take you by surprise and I am confident that I would be fine now driving in the dark up there.

Finding your way in the pitch dark is far easier when you are familar with the route in the light. That’s what we do every day: Talk with individuals or groups and help them see their context in the light of day… so that when they return to their workplace they see it in a different way. You can learn to take a different perspective yourself. You may need to get away from the day to day stuff at work to do that. Think about the situation as you see it and then consider it as other people see it. If you’re visual, try drawing a diagram of all the players in the story and look at the situation from each of their perspectives. If you’re in a coffee shop, try using the sugar to map out what’s going on! Because our level of confidence to manage difficult situations increases when we have a broader understanding of what the situation looks like.’

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