'Thank you for your help in getting me into a position and frame of mind to accept the (more senior) post. You have both over the years made me think more carefully about my ministry and my skills. So some credit is due to you.' TS Home
PYou homed in on the central issues like "a heat-seeking missile" JB
A good contract is vital. This isn't just about whan shall we meet? Where? For how long? What shall we work on? A good contract in every conversation will mean that it's not the coach's agenda and your colleague is firmly in the driving seat.
3D Juggling 451: Driving On The Motorway What he realises he needs is a driving instructor who will go with him, in his car, on the motorway. It's not what the instructor will expect when they receive the phone call. But it's good news for my friend and the instructor. To get that he needs to clearly state what he needs.
3D Juggling 449: Wearing Purple Cut the nasty surprises out for those you talk to by both agreeing what hat you are wearing. If you're not sure, ask them!
Juggling in 3D 417: Stakeholders The danger in a 1-1 conversation in coaching or in a Action learning Set is that the conversation can become exclusively about the client or the presenter. Who are the other stakeholders in what that person is thinking about?
Juggling in 3D 401: Power The powerfulness of a conversation comes when both parties think they are having the same kind of conversation. Sounds simple. But how often are you affirming and your colleague thinks you are performance managing? Or do you do peer supervision and you think it's one thing and colleagues think it's something else? It doesn't matter what you call your dialogue...
