3D Juggling 386: Powerful Stories

Jeremy writes: ‘On a “Whatever Next…?” day, participants are invited in turn to tell something of their own stories at the beginning of the day. This acts as an introduction both to themselves, and also the issues which they have come to address in a beautiful and resourceful setting. This week we were in a box at Lords.

Frequently, when we have finished doing that, there is enthusiastic comment over coffee on the sheer power of the process, the process of telling out loud, with intense listening, a very personal perspective on the person’s own life. The stories come from experience and the authors, feeling in a safe place, tell it just as they see it and feel it. The power comes from a sense of authority which always accompanies a true story – ie when the author is authentic.

We usually are authentic (Greek root – genuine, and of undisputed origin) and speak with authority ( Latin root – powerful) when we speak as the author (Latin root – to originate).

We would be much more effective verbally if we told parts our own story much more often… and stayed authentic, without adding any spin! Such integrity adds a sure-footedness and confidence to our daily walk.’

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Precis

Love this quote sent by Mark Greene in response to the comments about precis

Franklin D Roosevelt said: Be sincere; be brief; be seated.

Managing Faith in the Workplace

Jackie Nelson from CABE has done a great summary of the evening which you can download from http://www.3dcoaching.com/about_work/managing_faith_in_the_workplace.phtml

3D Juggling 385: Happening

Claire writes: ‘Good things happen because people make them happen. Bad things happen because people let them happen.’ said Martin Bell at a recent talk about his work as a journalist and politician.

The man in the white suit is suggesting that activity leads to good things and passivity can lead to bad. It is a challeging summary of the reflection from Pastor Martin Niemoller, a victim of the Nazis:

First they came for the Jews
and I did not speak out
because I was not a Jew.
Then they came for the Communists
and I did not speak out
because I was not a Communist.
Then they came for the trade unionists
and I did not speak out
because I was not a trade unionist.
Then they came for me
and there was no one left
to speak out for me.

Active? Or passive?’

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Faith at Work

I met Bp Alan Wilson last week for lunch and he went away and found out more about the new legislation about equality and diversity which will affect the issues we’ve been talking about re faith in the workplace.

http://bishopalan.blogspot.com/2008/06/eat-your-shorts-b-p-richfield.html

3D Juggling 384: Meaning

Claire writes: ‘The Work Foundation’s report ‘Inwardness: The Rise of Meaningful Work’ connects with a recent survey which suggested that 70% of employees want fulfillment at work. The challenge is that employers can’t impose meaning and purpose on their employees. Workers will find it on their own, or not. We call it vocation, whether or not someone has a faith.

Aristotle said: ‘Where your talents and the needs of the world collide, there lies your vocation.’ I would expand that by saying that talents are what we are both good at and passionate about.
I spoke to a man last week who was uncertain about future directions. Mid conversation we stopped and I asked: “What will be different if you REALLY know that this workplace is where you are meant to be.” ‘Everything’, he answered. Everything has changed in him. Nothing has changed at work.

Meaning and purpose certainly don’t have to come from faith, but continuing lastw eek’s theme, one of the benefits of valuing faith in the workplace is that people who do have faith will have a priority to serve their employer and to serve God. Hopefully that brings a foundation of purpose. I recently heard a nurse talk about difficulties in a hospital where many staff are disillusioned and wanting to leave. ‘I believe God wants me to do this job. I’m not leaving’ she said. Employers can’t impose meaning and purpose. This nurse has found it for herself.

Do you feel fulfilled at work? And do you create an environment which allows others to find meaning and purpose in what they do?’

PS This connects interestingly with some research on the world in 2018 conducted by the Chartered Institute of Managers.

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3D Juggling 383: Taking all of you to work

Thanks to those of you on LinkedIn who took the time to answer our question: What are the benefits of faith in the workplace? We received loads of responses from those of different faiths and none. We also discovered that if you ask a question on LinkedIn it goes way beyond your own contacts list!

‘Claire writes: Stonewall say – People perform better when they can be themselves.

People work more effectively when they can bring themselves to work. No employer in their right mind would ask their employees to leave their brain outside! So it’s interesting that there can be mixed reactions to people bringing their spirituality or faith to work. Of course we are all primarily employed to do a good job, but there can be huge added value in allowing people to acknowledge their spiritual side at work – whether or not it is connected to faith.

A fellow coach responded to my question by saying: Anyone can experience peace, unconditional love, forgiveness and experience the joy of the present moment regardless of faith, creed, religion, race … perhaps we just need spiritual intelligence.

In fact, Ian Mitroff did some research in the US which he wrote up in his book ‘Spiritual Audit of Corporate America’which discovered that companies that acknowledged spiritual values and aligned them with corporate goals outperformed those who did not.
Are you expecting people to bring all of themselves to work?’

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3D Juggling 382: Moving Sectors

Pete emailed last week to say he has successfully moved to a new sector and got a job as a school business manager. His business experience was more transferrable because he had been volunteering to be a school governor. He writes

‘At our Governor’s Christmas social, I was talking to Sara, a fellow governor, about my situation. She had some very helpful things to say, and offered to give a reference should I think she was an appropriate person. As a retired Senior Education officer – who used to be responsible for all the High Schools in the county, including the one I applied to – as well as an Ofsted Inspector and Education Consultant, it seemed sensible to take her up on her offer. Here are the first two sentences of the reference. “My background and current experience (and former knowledge of your school) enable me to understand the post you offer and the ideal candidate for it. I write in this context.” She then went on to detail, in glowing terms that made me glow, how I was the ideal candidate for the post. (The Head described it as “stunning” – and I agree.) As I drove to the interview, I started to feel more than a little nervous. But then I remembered the words of the reference, and thought “If Sara has such confidence in me, there should be nothing I come across today that I cannot cope with. And so I have no reason to think I am a poor candidate or not up to the job. I can do this!” Sara’s encouragement was incredible, and filled me with so much confidence that inspired me through the whole process.’

Giving and receiving willingly allowed Pete to make the change. Volunteering allowed people with insight to see Pete’s skills first hand. And the confidence of knowing that someone in the know believed him to be an excellent candidate gave him the extra inspiration he needed.’
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